You can never win an argument, a few more facts to consider before you decide to get into an argument with anyone.
- Among the most common human frailties is the feeling of importance.
Most people derive this sense of significance by arguing and loudly asserting their authority. As long as you argue, the more stubbornly held they are to their opinion. Be the “lesser man” and let them win. This will open them up to a being more reasonable and receptive of what you have to say.
- Hatred is never driven out by hatred but by love.
A misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation and a sympathetic desire to see the other person’s viewpoint.
- Better give your path to a dog than be bitten by him in contesting for the right of way. Even killing the dog will not cure the bite.
- When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary.
If there is some point you haven’t thought about and it hasn’t been brought to your attention, perhaps this disagreement is your chance to be corrected before you make a serious mistake.
- Distrust your first instinctive reaction to be defensive in a disagreeable situation.
Be careful. Keep calm and watch your first reaction. It may be your worst and it might not be for the best.
- Control your temper.
Remember the size of a man is measured by what makes him angry.
- Build bridges of understanding by listening, not debating or defending yourself while they speak. Let them finish talking. Listen first.
- Look for areas of agreement and dwell where you agree, not where you don’t.
- Be honest, look for areas you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes, it will disarm your opponents.
- Promise to think over your opponent’s ideas and study them carefully. Your opponent may be right.
- Postpone action to give both sides a chance to think through the problem.
- When one yells, the other person should listen because when two people yell, there is no communication, just noise and bad vibrations.
TIP: The only to get the best out of an argument is to avoid it.