An Easy Way to Become a Conversationalist.

The quickest route to having friends. How to be a pro conversationalist.

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We all have those people in our lives who we dread to meet. The thought of even seeing them sends shivers up your spine. They talk and talk and talk and talk till you just want to scream, SHUT THE F#*K UP!!!

Well I think you already have figured out that the key to being a great conversationalist isn’t endless talking. Then there’s that other friend you always want to meet. They are soft spoken great listeners. They really listen to you talk. Not just sit there silently but actively involved in what you are saying. They engage you so much you never want to stop talking.

The key to being a great conversationalist is being a great listener.

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Here’s a few know how’s on getting you from a good listener to a great listener.

  1. Be an active listener.

You don’t need to know what to say next, just be actively present in the conversation. Stop what you are doing and listen. Most people value your ability to listen than they do the ability to talk. Most people call the doctor not because they are sick but because they need an audience, they need someone who is a listener.

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  1. Be an attentive listener.

To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that the other person will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

 

  1. Remember this;

The person you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and their problems than they are in you and your problems. A boil on one’s neck is more important than a thousand earthquakes in Africa.

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  1. Be a good listener.

Encourage others to talk about themselves. People find themselves the most important thing they can talk about. Encourage them to talk about themselves and you won’t have to think about what to say next.

 

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